The Tale of Two EulogiesIn 1914, the year one of my great-grandparents died, most American Catholics would've considered the gospel account of the miracle of the loaves and the fishes as just that - a
miracle. Christ, the God man, creating
ex nihilo. From which wonder and amazement would naturally flow.
But now many American Catholics turn a blind eye to the miraculous. Perhaps embarrassed by accounts like that in an age of science or else they see them as designed not to provoke wonder but to produce more visible results. Americans are outcome-oriented, results-oriented. And the result God is interested in is not wonder or amazement but an individual's improvement in virtue. Unselfishness. Sharing. And thus the story morphed into a tale about how Jesus inspired the crowd to share the food they had on them.
I think the different interpretations, if you even call the latter an "interpretation", perfectly illustrate the difference between two eulogies I've recently read as a result of my little family history project. I post this with trepidation, wondering where the line is between expressing my feelings and showing disrespect and/or judgment towards the dead. As Sandy (you still reading this blog Sandy?) often says, "just because something is true doesn't mean you have to say it."
But both subjects were exemplary people and that is precisely why the difference between the eulogies is so interesting. Two highly-respected family members die, one in 1914 and one some eighty years later. By virtue of their virtue, we can eliminate a variable (to the extent you can judge that from afar). How we praise them becomes a cultural conceit. Or, indirectly, an expression of doctrinal belief.
Perhaps I have merely a bias for what is old, but I feel more comfortable with the language of the 1914 version. In that version faith in God is emphasized. In the later version the person's love of family and altruism is emphasized. The deceased in the latter is often quoted as having advised "always think of others first and you will find happiness." That strikes me as Pelagian, though perhaps I'm merely challenged by it since I'm still working on that think of others first thing, or shall I put it God isn't finished with me yet. In the ten page remembrance of the soul recently departed there is only one mention of God, that coming at the end when all are asked to say the deceased's favorite prayer, from which the recently departed had drawn great strength. God seems almost superfluous in the equation.
Perhaps this is all a matter of style since a deeply lived faith doesn't necessarily mean a lot of words. I think it was St. Francis who said, "Preach the gospel. If necessary, use words." "Only love is credible" wrote Balthasar. But in the other one page summary I have of the older eulogy there are lines like: "He passed away fortified with the last sacraments of the Church". You would simply never hear that now. Instead of "he passed away in the bosom of the Church" you'll likely hear "he passed away in the arms of his family". Or compare "he always thought of his family first" to "he always thought of God first".
Of course, it could be worse. Try this on for size: "He passed away in the afterglow of a Browns victory, just as he would've wanted."